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Junior Golf Parents

What are the foundational keys to developing a successful junior golfer..? Some may be surprised it has less to do with swing mechanics and more to do with social, emotional and mindset factors. Developing a skilled athlete in any sport take patience and enjoyment from both kids and parents alike. In a talk Jeff and Eric had recently, here is a friendly reminder of what to keep at the forefront of our minds while creating an atmosphere for these young athletes to grow! Hope everyone enjoys…

Prioritizing Improvement

Golf is a top priority for a lot of people that I meet.  I guess being a full time golf Coach/Teacher will do that.  The funny thing is that many of those people will say that golf is a high priority but they don’t really “back it up”.  They find excuses to not practice, miss lessons, and generally stall their improvement.

I can relate… there are many items that are “Top Priority” for me.  Lets see… God, Being a Great Husband and Father, my golf business, this project with my best friend called Coach’s Mind… you may have heard of it 😉 , my own golf game, fitness, overall health, the list goes on.  These things are all important to me and I fail daily at all of them.  Fail may be a strong word but I definitely am not performing to the degree that I would like to in any of them. I think that is the point though. Life is a balancing act and some day I succeed more in certain areas and less in others.  What really irks me though is when I LET something that isn’t even on the list take up all my time and energy.  I say let because in order for it to happen we have to give it permission. At the end of the day we have the choice to spend our time where we determine is the most important.   It reminds me of that quote from Marianne Williamson “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.” We like to think that we don’t reach our goals because things “get in the way”, “they were out of our control”, that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

Recently I came across an article from one of my favorite Author/Entrepreneur/Life Coach Ramit Sethi.  The article was titled  Why we avoid our #1 priority.   Be sure to check it out as it gets a little into why we make the decisions we do.

In the article Ramit talks about what a #1 priority looks like.

You’re spending 5 hours/week (minimum) on it. For top performers, up to 50+ hours/week.

  • You’re spending 5 hours/week (minimum) on it. For top performers, up to 50+ hours/week.
  • You’re making progress every week. You might not be getting RESULTS every week, but you’re moving forward.
  • You’re actively turning down other opportunities so you can focus on this.

That last one is a big deal to me.  Every decision we make we are voting yes for something and no to something else.  Many of us said “YES” to things that aren’t really important to us. . They aren’t priorities… they are “road blocks” / “energy drains” that keep us from reaching our goals. We are completely over extended and there seems to be not enough hours in the day to accomplish all that we want to accomplish.  We need to simplify our lives to make room for what really matters to US!  We love to set goals and say what we are going to do, but we don’t take the time to make room in our lives for the goal so we set ourselves up to fail.  Before saying yes again, consider “What am I saying no to?”.

-JSM

If you are looking for ways to simplify this article http://www.theminimalists.com/walk-away/ . These guys are great and have a ton of content worth checking out if this resonated with you. Doesn’t hurt that we share the same hometown 😉

 

Reaching Your Potential

Golfers are no different than the average American when it comes to their behavior patterns and actions.  Most golfers seek out help with their golf game from a place of pain and frustration.  They are wildly embarrassed about the state of their game, the number of golf balls lost, the time spent holding up the group looking for those balls, windows broken, invitations declined, they are the butt of their buddies’ jokes and they want help.  They are forced to act…fight or flight… it is human instinct.

As a coach my first goal is to remove that pain, get them to enjoy the game again.  Over the years I have become pretty good at that.  Trial and error over some 15,000 golf lessons will allow one to gain some proficiency on the subject. The problem isn’t removing the pain… it is what comes next.   When people act out of a place of pain, the pain is what motivates them, it is what pushes them, it is what gets them to their lessons on time, it is why they CHOOSE to practice.  Remove that pain and you remove the motivation.  Not all American golfers are this way but in my experience, the vast majority are.  They are not motivated by success and reaching potential… they are motivated by not being embarrassed and that is why many of us do not reach our full potential.  You can parallel this idea to many other areas, weight loss is the top one that comes to mind.  Shed those first 10 lbs and we become content… we rationalize… we are no longer totally disgusted by the image we see… just partially and from there we go about our lives (finances and debt is another area that comes to mind).  In other cultures, not reaching one’s potentially is kin to committing a sin. In America it has become status quo.

So what do we do?  It is ok to respond out of a place of pain, it is human nature. It is a good thing… it is what gets us moving in the right direction.  When you begin that journey though, you have to know what you will be up against.  You will have to know that the complacency bug (CB) will creep up after some progress is made.  You have to stay ahead of him, you have to set goals, plan your counter attack on the (CB).  Move from a place of thinking about your game as something with holes and deficiencies and begin to look at your game as a masterpiece you are shaping.  What areas do you want to make great?  What do you want your golfing identity to be?  Who can you model this area of your game after? Some refer to this way of thinking as “Lifestyle by design”, I guess we can call it “My Golf Game by design”. Once your have that image of the golfer you want to be, let that passion run deep.  Let it keep you up at night. Let it be what pushes you, motivates you, and make the decision that falling short of reaching your potential is a slap in the face to the golf gods…. It is basically kin to a sin.

 

-JSM

Practice Swings Vs Real Shots

A continuation from the last post regarding how to best use your practice time. In this clip from the same lesson we chat about what happens when we go from a good looking practice swing to an actual shot with a ball where we loose the technique a bit. Hope everyone can take something away from this all to often occurrence!

Gratitude Breeds Success

 

Today. Just for a moment. Look around and note everything that you are grateful for. The sunshine (rare for February in Central Ohio), the hope of spring is in the air. I love this time of year because there is so much promise for the upcoming season.  The Masters is less than 2 months away, days are getting longer, golf trips are being planned, Jordan won his first trophy of the year as we took in the breathtaking views of Pebble Beach.  This is going to be a great year!

 

I often hear stories from golfers that go something like this, “I usually start off the season well but then as the season goes on I begin to lose it, it seems like the harder I work the worse I get. I must be working on the wrong things, that is why I am here to see you.” Many players start the season strong because they are “just happy to be out there”.  They are happy to be outside, with buddies again enjoying the occasional sunny spring day.  They are grateful. Grateful the weather is nice enough to enjoy this magical game.  Then as the season churns on and more rounds are played, the little things are forgotten.  It is no longer about time spent with friends, fresh air, and sunshine.  It becomes about the grind to get better, to improve on the last round, the lost strokes, the lost opportunities.

 

Don’t lose sight of WHY you play this game. Be grateful for all this game has taught you and will teach you.  Be grateful for the friendships it has brought and the bonds it has helped form.  Be grateful for the sunshine, the fresh air, fresh cut grass, and the opportunity to play this wonderful game for a life time.  If you do, you may have a little fun out there.  With fun comes success.  Be careful though…. If you begin acknowledging all you have to be grateful for, you may be bombarded with even more and who would want that?

 

“It’s not the happy people who are grateful, it’s the grateful people who are happy”

-unknown

 

JSM – 2/13/17